{"id":35872,"date":"2025-10-10T18:28:21","date_gmt":"2025-10-10T15:28:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kibrisayna.com\/index.php\/2025\/10\/10\/pisman-olacaginiz-mesaji-gondermeden-once-yapmaniz-gereken-3-sey\/"},"modified":"2025-10-10T18:28:21","modified_gmt":"2025-10-10T15:28:21","slug":"pisman-olacaginiz-mesaji-gondermeden-once-yapmaniz-gereken-3-sey","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kibrisayna.com\/index.php\/2025\/10\/10\/pisman-olacaginiz-mesaji-gondermeden-once-yapmaniz-gereken-3-sey\/","title":{"rendered":"Pi\u015fman olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z mesaj\u0131 g\u00f6ndermeden \u00f6nce yapman\u0131z gereken 3 \u015fey"},"content":{"rendered":"


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Hepimiz o an\u0131 ya\u015fad\u0131k. Kafam\u0131z\u0131n i\u00e7inde bir mesaj belirir -\u00f6fke dolu, k\u0131rg\u0131n veya duygusal- ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye f\u0131rsat kalmadan parma\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u201cg\u00f6nder\u201d tu\u015funa basar.<\/p>\n

Bazen e\u015fimize unuttu\u011fu bir plan i\u00e7in, bazen i\u015f arkada\u015f\u0131m\u0131za geciken teslim tarihi i\u00e7in, bazen de s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 zorlayan bir dosta bu t\u00fcrden mesajlar g\u00f6ndeririz. Ancak daha sonra pi\u015fman oluruz, tek bir tu\u015fla geri d\u00f6n\u00fclmez bir hasar olu\u015fur.<\/p>\n

Uzmanlara g\u00f6re, bu t\u00fcr anl\u0131k mesajlar\u0131n ard\u0131ndan bir\u00e7ok ki\u015fi kayg\u0131, pi\u015fmanl\u0131k, su\u00e7luluk ve zamanla ili\u015fkilerde g\u00fcven kayb\u0131 ya\u015f\u0131yor. Duygusal y\u00fckselmeleri tamamen engelleyemesek de, kontrol etmeyi \u00f6\u011frenebiliriz. \u00dcstelik bu, mesaj\u0131 g\u00f6ndermeden \u00f6nce ba\u015fl\u0131yor.<\/p>\n

Forbes<\/a>‘un psikoloji yazar\u0131 Mark Travers, konuyla ilgili ara\u015ft\u0131rmalara dayanarak, bu t\u00fcrden mesajlar\u0131 g\u00f6ndermeden \u00f6nce yap\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken 3 \u015feyi s\u0131ralad\u0131.<\/p>\n

1. MOLA VER\u0130N<\/strong><\/h3>\n

K\u0131zg\u0131n, k\u0131rg\u0131n ya da duygusal bir mesaj atmadan \u00f6nce durun ve bedeninize bak\u0131n. Duygular sadece \u201czihinsel\u201d de\u011fildir; t\u00fcm v\u00fccudunuzu etkiler. Stres an\u0131nda mant\u0131k ve \u00f6z denetimden sorumlu beyin b\u00f6lgesi (prefrontal korteks) yava\u015flar.<\/p>\n

Ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar, stres hormonlar\u0131n\u0131n (\u00f6rne\u011fin dopamin ve noradrenalin) beynin elektrik dengesini bozarak mant\u0131kl\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeyi ge\u00e7ici olarak devre d\u0131\u015f\u0131 b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6steriyor. Bu durumda refleksleriniz devreye girer, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeden tepki verirsiniz.<\/p>\n

Travers, mola vermek i\u00e7in \u015fu ad\u0131mlar\u0131 izlemeyi \u00f6neriyor:<\/p>\n

Derin nefes al\u0131n. D\u00f6rde kadar sayarak nefes al\u0131n, d\u00f6rt saniye tutun, alt\u0131ya kadar sayarak verin. Uzun nefes verme, v\u00fccudu \u201csava\u015f ya da ka\u00e7\u201d modundan \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131p \u201cdinlen ve sindir\u201d moduna sokar.<\/p>\n

Bedeninizi taray\u0131n. \u00c7eneniz s\u0131k\u0131l\u0131 m\u0131? Omzunuz gergin mi? Kalbiniz h\u0131zl\u0131 m\u0131 at\u0131yor? Hislerinizi adland\u0131r\u0131n: \u201cBu \u00f6fke.\u201d Duyguyu tan\u0131mlamak, onun g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc azalt\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Kendinizi sabitleyin. Masaya, sandalyeye ya da yere dokunun. Ger\u00e7ek d\u00fcnyaya temas etmek, beyninize tehdidin acil olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hat\u0131rlat\u0131r.<\/p>\n

2. OLAYA DI\u015eARIDAN BAKMAYA \u00c7ALI\u015eIN<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Beden sakinle\u015ftikten sonra ikinci ad\u0131m, olaya d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan bakabilmek. Buna \u201c\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc ki\u015fi bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131\u201d deniyor.<\/p>\n

Son ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar, duygusal yo\u011funlu\u011fun y\u00fcksek oldu\u011fu durumlarda olaya d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan bakman\u0131n, ya\u015fananlar\u0131 anlamland\u0131rmay\u0131 kolayla\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6steriyor. Bu yakla\u015f\u0131m, hem durumu daha net g\u00f6rmenizi hem de kendinize de\u011fer verme duygunuzu koruman\u0131z\u0131 sa\u011fl\u0131yor.<\/p>\n

Travers’a g\u00f6re bunu ba\u015farmak i\u00e7in \u015fu ad\u0131mlar\u0131 izlemek gerek:<\/p>\n

Kendinizi bir arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n yerine koyun: O mesaj\u0131 bir ba\u015fkas\u0131 size g\u00f6sterse, \u201cG\u00f6nder\u201d der miydiniz?<\/p>\n

Durumu tarafs\u0131z bi\u00e7imde anlat\u0131n: \u201cArkada\u015f\u0131m aramam\u0131 ka\u00e7\u0131rd\u0131, ya me\u015fguld\u00fc ya da unuttu.\u201d<\/p>\n

Uzun vadeyi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn: \u015eimdi g\u00f6nderece\u011finiz bu mesaj bir saat, bir g\u00fcn veya bir hafta sonra ili\u015fkinizi nas\u0131l etkileyecek?<\/p>\n

3. MESAJI TASLAKLARA KAYDETMEK<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Yazmak, duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 bast\u0131rmak de\u011fil, onlar\u0131 zarars\u0131z bi\u00e7imde d\u0131\u015fa vurman\u0131n yolu. Ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar, d\u00fcrt\u00fcselli\u011fin duygusal anlarda y\u00fckseldi\u011fini g\u00f6steriyor; yani o anda kontrol\u00fcn\u00fcz zay\u0131fl\u0131yor. Ama bu kal\u0131c\u0131 de\u011fil, sadece ge\u00e7ici bir dalgalanma.<\/p>\n

Bu y\u00fczden 20-30 dakikal\u0131k bir bekleme bile duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n yat\u0131\u015fmas\u0131na ve sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 karar verme yetinizin geri d\u00f6nmesine yeterli olabilir.<\/p>\n

Travers’\u0131n uygulama \u00f6nerisi \u015fu \u015fekilde:<\/p>\n

\u0130\u00e7inizden geldi\u011fi gibi yaz\u0131n: Duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 bast\u0131rmadan, t\u00fcm samimiyetinizle yaz\u0131n ama g\u00f6ndermeyin.<\/p>\n

Taslak olarak kaydedin: Mesaj g\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fcn \u00f6n\u00fcnden kaybolsun. Bu, g\u00f6nderme d\u00fcrt\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fc azalt\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Bir s\u00fcre sonra tekrar okuyun: S\u0131kl\u0131kla, o anda \u201c\u00e7ok \u00f6nemli\u201d gelen s\u00f6zlerin bir saat sonra gereksiz veya abart\u0131l\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc fark edersiniz.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n


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Hepimiz o an\u0131 ya\u015fad\u0131k. Kafam\u0131z\u0131n i\u00e7inde bir mesaj belirir -\u00f6fke dolu, k\u0131rg\u0131n veya duygusal- ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye f\u0131rsat kalmadan parma\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u201cg\u00f6nder\u201d tu\u015funa basar. Bazen e\u015fimize unuttu\u011fu bir plan i\u00e7in, bazen i\u015f arkada\u015f\u0131m\u0131za geciken teslim tarihi i\u00e7in, bazen de s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 zorlayan bir dosta bu t\u00fcrden mesajlar g\u00f6ndeririz. Ancak daha sonra pi\u015fman oluruz, tek bir tu\u015fla geri d\u00f6n\u00fclmez […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":908,"featured_media":35873,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-35872","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-teknoloji"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/kibrisayna.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/u3HBT9jHDU-sgloY6ogm2Q.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kibrisayna.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35872","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kibrisayna.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kibrisayna.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kibrisayna.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/908"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kibrisayna.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=35872"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/kibrisayna.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35872\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kibrisayna.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/35873"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kibrisayna.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=35872"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kibrisayna.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=35872"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kibrisayna.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=35872"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}